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Sex & Health
- Inability to Achieve Orgasm -
This is a condition most often associated with women.
Why do some women have difficulty in achieving orgasm?
There are a number of reasons why a woman may not be able to achieve orgasm, some physical others psychological.
Possible physical issues:
- inadequate stimulation
- medication treating another illness
- injury or accident which affects gential receptiveness
- conditions which interrupt nerve supply to the genitals
Possible psychological issues:
- stress or anxiety
- relationship problems
- depression
- cultural or religious guilt associated with sex
What can I do to better my chances?
Know yourself
Being comfortable with your body is the first step to becoming orgasmic. Explore your beautiful body by yourself and be secure in all your minor flaws. We all have them, why should you be any different?
A wonderful first step is to take an evening to yourself and explore your body. Draw yourself a nice warm bath and then let any tension fade away. Next head into your bedroom and lock the door. Take a personal mirror and explore your genitals. Unlike men, women's genitals are hidden from their eyes. So take a moment to see what your partner sees. Explore your beauty. Once you're more comfortable an orgasm will be much easier to achieve.
If you've never masturbated before, then this is a good time to start. Allow yourself to totally relax and get wrapped up in the moment. Concentrate on the sensations that feel extremely pleasurable. Remember the techniques you used and teach them to your partner.
Make sure that you are in the mood
You should feel relaxed and comfortable so that you can fully appreciate sexual intimacy with yourself or your partner. In ideal circumstances you should be relaxed and stress free. For many women, the late evening is the worst time to engage in sexual activity. If you're tired and wound up from a hectic day, wait for a relaxed Sunday afternoon when the kids are out of the house.
Additionally, if you're angry at your partner, it may not be the best time to engage in sexual intimacy.
Communicate with your partner
Tell him/her what you find sexually stimulating. Many women can not achieve orgasm from intercourse. This is not a sexual dysfunction, it just means that your partner has to explore what you find most pleasurable. If you're not sure, then you should do some exploring together. Make sure you give feedback and don't be afraid to something "isn't that great.". If the stimulation provided by your partner isn't strong enough, you may want to explore the use of a vibrator. Honest communication will help you achieve orgasm and make your partner a better lover.
Be adventurous
Oral sex or manual stimulation of the clitoris may be too infrequent for some women to achieve orgasm so an alternative method of stimulation is advised. Explore the entire genital region and find your most erogenous areas. Concentrate on what turns you on the most.
Be positive
Some women go through a stage of arousal where they are not becoming further excited. Many feel that this is where their arousal will end and that they will not be able to achieve an orgasm. Once a woman believes that she is not going to be able to have an orgasm, that is often exactly what happens.
Touch yourself
It is okay for you to touch yourself during sexual intimacy with a partner. Self stimulation is encouraged, and often accentuates the feeling of intercourse.
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